My responsible potty trainee

I get ahead of myself so many times that I should know when I start doing it.

My little man is still a trainee, really. I should remember to hold myself down and not get too excited just because it has been a month of success.

The other day, my husband told me how our little man pooped in his shorts because he was busy watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and then ran to the bathroom when the episode ran its credits. Jonno heard 2 flushing sounds, which prompted him to inquire with our son on what was going on.

The child was honest in saying that he pooped his pants and that he dropped them into the toilet and flushed. One just cannot get upset about the pooping and what he did to rectify the wrong decision of evacuating where he shouldn’t, but we couldn’t help ourselves from beaming with pride (and maybe even emotionally touched) about our toddler being so responsible and honest.

That was one of those days that, as a parent, I ask what I have possibly done right that my child is turning out to be GOOD PERSON so far. Sigh.


Potty training update

It has been a while since I last posted about training our 3-year-old to use the potty properly. The only reason is that we have not had a problem in the last 4 weeks since we went full-on with his training.

Ok, there was an accident at school when he told his teacher but she couldn’t attend to him immediately and my son couldn’t wait. He cried. He felt bad about his accident. I’m not sure whether to be happy or sad about that.

We are still doing the morning and night routine of sitting him on the potty just to make sure he evacuates what needs evacuating, but when he says he’s done we listen.

This morning, while I was dressing up for work, he told me that he needed to poo. I was glad. He can tell what his body needs to do now. So I guess, this is the last post on potty training for my kiddo!

Potty Training: I think we cracked the code!

If you’re new here, I should tell you that my little man has been on potty training since October 2010. Yes, it has been that long!

We tried taking him to the loo every hour or so, but this proved to be inefficient especially when you’re on the go. Consistency is hard to achieve in this method.

We tried using a potty training chart. The stars lost their novelty value after a week.

We tried rewarding him with treats that we would not give him on a regular basis, like gummy bears. This didn’t last either because it’s not in our parenting principle to give our child unhealthy sugar.

We tried telling him to tell us when he’s about to go. This barely worked because he would tell us when it’s convenient for him, which is mostly when he’s not busy playing or not doing something that can’t wait. But for some unexplained reason, we held on to this method for so long hoping he would express himself to us someday. We believed in his ability to communicate because he converses well and tells stories and runs his scooter downhill. What’s so hard about telling your parents that you have to poo? He is a big boy in some ways. Surely he will someday want to poop in the toilet just like the rest of us.

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I read many an article and they all seem good and worth a try, but we work full time and we can’t really ask his pre-K teachers to help us. Though we did, luckily we didn’t depend on it. I talked to my mom about it and she suggested elimination communication, which she did with us. Of course I knew about that. I’ve seen my younger cousins trained that way. I knew from when my son was barely 1 that the EC method may be a challenge because we can’t tell if he’s going or not.

You know how some kids make funny faces as they push poo out? I have a cousin whose face would go red. That was my aunt’s cue to sit him on the potty. My son’s face is blank. He can actually work for the CIA or the FBI. We can never tell when he’s going but we can smell the outcome. He also liked to go somewhere alone to poo his pants, but he also did that without pooing his pants.

I posted previously that we decided to take away his scooter rights for the entire day if he soiled his pants. We were getting desperate. At the same time, I introduced EC in the morning and before bedtime because we work full time. And, to be honest, I read a book that the best time to poo is in the morning. So I feel good about my child pooping in the morning, although the night ones prove to be much needed evacuation as well.

My technique is to make grunt sounds (the sound most people make when they go) followed by an object in mind, and we take turns in doing it.

Mama: *grunt* *grunt* Toilet paper!

Kiddo: *grunt* *grunt* Toothbrush!

In the first minute, it’s all about play as he sat on the toilet. Then I heard a whistle of fart, and his face made a worried look. And with that, his poo decided to cooperate and it has been cooperating since. Is it the environment that we create? Do we make it fun for him? We don’t know. All we know is that it works and my husband and I are happy and proud of him. I think the kiddo is proud of himself too. He looks forward to riding his scooter after school. I think we also taught him a bit about delayed gratification in the process.

Please, just do #2 in the loo

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You’re lucky if your toddler is FULLY toilet trained at the age of 3 or even younger.

My little mister has been good about keeping his pants dry, no problem there. He would even wake up a night to pee in the toilet. But with pooping? Ha.

My husband says that our boy doesn’t see any difference between pooping in his underwear and pooping in a nappy; but because there’s a big difference in peeing in either of them, he trained faster with #1.

Our attempt at getting him to do it is to take away his scooter rights for that day if he poops his pants. This didn’t work because he resorted to his strider (bike with no pedals) that he originally didn’t like. Now he’s getting better at it after spending 2 days on it because…(you guessed it) he pooped his pants for 2 consecutive days.

My husband started mentioning to the kiddo about potentially taking away his strider rights as well. 😦

We tried timing it for a day and it worked, but for some reason we didn’t follow through. I got him to sit on the potty for 2 minutes just to check if poop decides to come out, which it did. Another after his nap, but this time he offered to go himself.

Some days are better than others. There’s no telling what that day would be like. Even his school seems to have started losing patience. They pack his soiled pants and underwear with his sh*t in them. So gross and unsanitary.

Seriously, as I was typing this entry my husband called me to report that our little boy was going home with the clothes he wore to school this morning. I asked, “Did he poo in the toilet today?”, “I don’t know, but he woke himself up from nap today to go potty. He’ll play with his scooter today!” See, today is one of the better days potty training-wise.

Too busy for potty

The kiddo has been on potty training for 6 months now. May marks the 7th month. He had been good and had had totally dry and clean days, but lately–the past 2 days, in fact–he had been pooping in his pants.

His first intentional accident was peeing in his pants. I handed him a voter’s magazine and he was flipping through pages, pointing out which candidates were boys and which ones were girls. He called my attention to say…

Look Mama, I’m peeing.

Too late to carry him all the way to the potty like house-training a puppy.

These past 2 days, he would just poop in his pants when he’s busy watching a show or staring out the window babbling to himself.

When we ask him why does it, all he says is that he was doing what he was doing. Too busy and can’t be bothered, it seems like.


What is going on? I don’t see us making any mistake in this process, but I could be wrong. Help!